Kaelah's Corner (Dec 2013): Still Alive

It's the last day of 2013 and my last post for this year. Normally, this would be the time to look back to and marvel at all the kinky fun that was had in the past twelve month. This year there isn't much for Ludwig and me to look back to, though, at least in regard to sex and kink. It's only been in the last couple of weeks that my kinky mojo has slowly started to return.

Soon Ludwig and I will celebrate our fifth anniversary. I didn't know this before, but it seems that the forth year is the one in which most couples part. According to some studies, it's the time when the hormones that are running wild when two people fall in love have completely returned back to normal, which can lead to significant changes in the relationship.

Just at this time, there have been other major changes in my life as well and there are several more to come soon for both Ludwig and me. These changes have also affected our relationship, much more than I thought they would. I'm not good at dealing with changes and they often scare me and raise doubts. To cut a long story short, there were times in 2013 when both Ludwig and I were not sure whether our relationship would survive until the end of the year. But now the year is over and we are still here. We are adapting to the changes and we know that there are even more to come in 2014, but we are still together and it seems like we might be on the mend.

I have learned some important things about us during this year. Even in the darkest times, when fears and anger come up, neither of us runs away. Instead, we stay in close contact, we talk a lot and we treat each other with respect and care. Plus, we remain open and honest. In my opinion, these are rare qualities, and very important ones for a successful long-term relationship.

I'm not really sure what 2014 will bring vanilla- and kink-wise, but I would like to post more regularly again. And I would like to write about several topics which have to do with long-term relationships and kink. It is also likely that Ludwig and I will start to explore our kink more intensely again. We are getting back in the mood and have already talked about some ideas for the upcoming year.

Until then, thank you very much to all of you who accompanied us during the last year! I wish you all the best for 2014 and hope to see you all there, happily and healthily. Please keep your fingers crossed that the upcoming year will be the year of Ludwig and Kaelah 2.0, our newly evolved love-relationship after times of struggling and change!

A Winter's Tale

We are a little late for Christmas this year, but not too late for you to enjoy this gift of ours over the holidays, hopefully. Ludwig and I finally found the time to record the audio story we promised you on my blogiversary this year. Thank you to all those who contributed two-word phrases to the story, which you can read in the comment section of my blogiversary post. We did our best to incorporate them all into a little kinky winter's tale.

With that, we wish you all Happy Holidays!

May you all be happy.

May you all be peaceful.

May you all be free from troubles of mind and body.

May you be safe and protected.

And may you all have a kind person to give you a warm bottom

or the kindness to give a warm bottom to another person you love.

Kaelah's Corner (Nov 2013): Cold Weather - Warm Bottoms

I'm late again for my Kaelah's Corner post, girls and guys. But I have a nice story to tell. Ludwig and I both started into December with a warm bottom. And what could be nicer during the cold time of the year here in Germany?

It all started with the two of us cuddling in bed. It was after midnight already and we were quite tired and didn't have any special plans other than to lie there and relax. Suddenly, though, Ludwig who had wrapped himself around me exclaimed: "Hey, don't press your bottom against me like that or otherwise it will have certain effects on me." - "Oh, really?" I took his comment rather as an invitation. "That would be very naughty, don't you think?" - "That doesn't make it any better, either", protested Ludwig. "Maybe you need a stern governess who shows you how to behave and how not to", I continued teasing. - "Great, now you've got it!" Ludwig sighed.

Part of Ludwig's reaction was fun, but I assume he was also slightly frustrated for real because he didn't expect any action to follow my words, since sex and kink are still usually rather on the back of my mind these days. But this time I took action. I sat up, dragged Ludwig across my lap, pulled down his underwear and began to spank his bottom with my hand. Ludwig's body stiffened and he gritted his teeth. "Damn, I am rather sensitive to the pain today," he stated. I guess many of the readers who find themselves on the receiving end of a spanking from time to time know such a situation. If one is tired and maybe also having a little cold, even a mere hand spanking can be rather painful.

I enjoyed Ludwig's visible but still suppressed reactions and his struggling and gave my best to do a proper job. It was all in good fun, though, and we laughed in between the sets of strokes. When the spanking grew even harder, Ludwig pushed himself up on his forearms, trying to cope with the pain, and – I think unintentionally – he also moved a bit to the side, away from my lap.

I grabbed his waist and pulled him back again. "You're going to stay here, my dear!" With that, I also took his arm and pinned it behind his back so that he couldn't push himself up any more. With my free hand I continued smacking Ludwig's bottom. "Hey, why can't I move my arms freely?" Ludwig protested and pulled his hand back to the front. "Because pinning someone's hand behind their back while spanking them is something I always wanted to do," I confessed without stopping to spank.

I finally finished Ludwig with a few more sets of really hard smacks, including several ones in a row on the same cheek. When I had come to the conclusion that it was enough, I pulled Ludwig's pants up again and kissed him. Ludwig was done. We switched to cuddling again with me playfully squeezing Ludwig's bottom from time to time. The banter continued.

I don't remember exactly what I said to Ludwig that made him take over. Maybe something like: "Oh yes, I am a naughty girl." What I remember clearly is that I found myself over Ludwig's lap being spanked over the pants of my PJs. After a while, Ludwig pulled the pants and panties down and continued to spank me on the bare. Again there was some banter and I really got into the mood.

Ludwig sensed the rare opportunity and combined the spanking which I already enjoyed very much with pleasure of a different kind. And indeed I let myself fall and enjoyed the moment, fantasies mixing up with the real action. Afterwards I sank into the cushions, totally relaxed. I thanked Ludwig and he replied: "My pleasure." We cuddled some more and finally went to sleep. That night I slept as well as I rarely do these days.

What a wonderful way to start the last month of the year, isn't it? Even more so because this naughty fun was just one part of a wonderful weekend Ludwig and I shared together. We went for a long walk in the beautiful sun, visited a Christmas market for the first time this year, watched a film together, went to a local concert and enjoyed some great food.

How about you? How has December started out for you?

Kaelah 22 : Ludwig 19

It's time to announce the final tally of this year's Global Day of Delurk vote. First off, a thank you to all who took part. We had comments from 35 readers, among them nine first-timers or "delurkers". These numbers are quite close to the records set last year (44 commenters with 13 delurkers among them), which is amazing in light of the fact that the blog has been less active than usual during the last few months. I would have expected a lower turnout this year, so I am pleasantly surprised. Even though it means, of course, that Kaelah and I will have to take more strokes in the upcoming video!

We had said that for each vote for Kaelah, she would take a cane stroke, and for each vote for me, I would take a cane stroke. First-time commenters would contribute two strokes each. Hermione, DJ Black and Our Bottoms Burn commented, but did not make a vote. The remaining 32 people voted as follows, with the number of strokes they contributed in parantheses:

For Kaelah:

Bella Moone (2)

Michael (1)

MrBBSpanker (1)

Underling (1)

Learning Domestic Discipline (2)

Corinne Alexander (2)

Chross (1)

Erica Scott (1)

sixofthebest (1)

jimisim (1)

Gustofur (1)

Bob S (1)

Bonnie (1)

Hannilein (1)

TobyMaster (1)

Rittersmann (2)

MoodPedro (1)

fatfreddy (1)

For Ludwig:

aaron doyle (2)

Rogue (2)

Anastasia Vitsky (1)
Spankedhortic aka Prefectdt (1)

ronnie (1)

Fred Bloggs (1)

Maddy (2)

Lea (1)

Sigrid (2)

Olli (1)

Spearthrower (1)

josh doyle (2)

JamesM (1)

CornishPatsy (1)

As you can see, Kaelah got more voters (18 versus 14), but I got more delurkers voting for me (five versus four). The end result is a fairly even tally of 22 cane strokes for Kaelah and 19 for me. This is quite a bit closer than either of us anticipated. I wrote in my LOL Day post that "MF always seems to beat FM in these kinds of votes", and it did, but only by a slight margin. It goes to show that, unlike some others regions of the online spanking community, our blog has a very balanced and open-minded audience in terms of preferences, which is great.

It's interesting to see how people change their vote, or do not change their vote, over the years. Some stay consistent, like Olli or Spearthrower, who already voted for me last year and were sorry to see me lose (fortunately for them, we make a video with both an FM and an MF part this time). And of course, Chross with his self-admitted "lopsided preferences" went with Kaelah again. Others changed their vote, like Lea or JamesM who wrote: "Last year I voted for Kaelah, so this year it will be Ludwig." An example of "distributive justice", I suppose.

Another point I keep wondering about: are Aaron and Josh Doyle brothers? Cousins? And if so, are both of them spankophiles, or did one persuade his vanilla family member to vote for me as well to get me more strokes? And last but not least, there is the intriguing case of a blogger with a well-known FM fetish voting not for me, but for Kaelah. As with every vote, the analysis reveals its share of surprises!

(Comment from Kaelah: We would have been even closer, if a certain someone hadn't voted for me (at a time when Ludwig was still ahead), stating "I reckon Ludwig has too many votes already". You know who you are, young man! ;-) I already assumed by the time that it wouldn't stay that way and that I would finally have to take more strokes than Ludwig. And (as usual ;-) ) I turned out to be right. The final tally is closer than I expected it to be, though, so I can live with that.) 

Actually, the final numbers have somewhat upset Kaelah's beloved, well-ordered cosmos of numbers, because 22 and 19 are rather unusual as canings go. But as I said to her the other day, I think it is one of the interesting aspects of such a vote that one tends to get an unusual tally rather than the standard multiples of six or ten we spankos always seem to go for.

We will shoot the video as soon as we can. Given that Kaelah and I are pretty stressed out and busy with non-kinky things these days, we can not promise that it will be in December, although we will certainly try. If not, you will get to see it in the spring.

Fuelling People's Fantasies

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Global Day of Delurk 2013

Today is this year's Love Our Lurkers Day. Once again, it is time for the heretofore silent readers to step out of the shadows if they like, and for all of you (lurker or long-time commenter) to vote on a video clip Kaelah and I are going to make.

Love Our Lurkers Day (or the Global Day of Delurk, as I like to call it here) is an invention of Bonnie of My Bottom Smarts. It has become a firm fixture on the calendar of the spanking community and this year is the eighth time we celebrate it. The idea is simple: on Love Our Lurkers Day, we spanking bloggers encourage our "lurkers", i.e. readers who have been following our blog but not commented before, to make their first comment, say hello and introduce themselves. So, please, feel free to come out if you like. This is your day. I know it can be a bit intimidating, especially to people who are new to BDSM and have not really talked to anyone in the Scene yet. But rest assured, we don't bite. We were all like you at some point in the past, shy, wide-eyed and curious, wondering if we should really take the plunge.

I first took part in Love Our Lurkers Day back in 2008. As the long-time readers have heard a hundred times before, that was when Kaelah left her first comment on my blog (or any blog, for that matter) as "K'Ehleyr", which lead to us exchanging emails, which lead to her putting her spanking fantasies into practice for the first time with me as a top, which lead to the two of us becoming a couple. It's quite the fairy tale story, really. In case you do not know it yet, you can read all about it in Where No Man Has Spanked Before.

But enough history. On to the present! As we have done previously, Kaelah and I are going to make a video clip based on Love Our Lurkers Day. Last year, you could decide whether Kaelah or I should get spanked, and predictably, Kaelah "won" by a solid margin - MF always seems to beat FM in these kinds of votes. So this year, we are doing it a bit differently. You can once again vote on whether she or I should get spanked, but instead of there being only one winner (or loser, depending on how you look at it), we will both take strokes this time. We are going to make a video that contains both an MF and an FM part, and depending on how many votes each of us gets, you decide how big or small these parts will be.

So here is how it goes: for each commenter who votes for Kaelah, Kaelah will take one cane stroke in the upcoming video. For each one who votes for me, I will take one cane stroke. For each delurker (first time commenter) who votes, she or I will take two cane strokes. As a delurker, you also get the option to split the strokes if you like - you can decide that both of "your" strokes should be given to Kaelah, that both should be given to me, or to split them.

The vote will be open for one week, that is until Tuesday, November 19th, 11:59:59 pm German time. Anonymous comments will not count, and neither will comments who just say hello and do not make a vote. So, if you like to make an impact in the video (pun intended), make sure to leave a name and to mention whether Kaelah or I should get "your" cane stroke (or strokes, in case you are a first time commenter here).

Happy Global Day of Delurk, everyone!

Kaelah's Corner (Oct 2013): Five of the Best?

Yeah, I know I am a bit late for my monthly corner post, girls and guys. I have been very busy at work. It seems like kink is around every corner at the moment at my work place, though. And not only because I've noticed a round open space outdoors which in my opinion would be very suitable for public floggings of lazy employees. No, I am talking about colleagues using kinky phrases. I've heard the word punishment. People talk about swinging the whip in order to make others work faster. There are references to self-flagellation. And two times a caning was mentioned as well!

The funny thing is that it was exactly the same number of strokes both times, though the people involved were completely different. In the first case, someone was asked what would happen if people were to come late to a time-critical meeting. The instant reply: "That means five cane strokes." I couldn't help but imagine how much more exciting some meetings might be if that were true. A while later, a line manager talked to his employees about certain incidents which they were supposed to avoid in the future. To clarify that the matter wasn't an ultimately critical one, though, he closed his speech with the words: "Don't get me wrong, I didn't say that you'll get five cane strokes if it ever happens again."

I have to admit that I enjoy it when kinky references come up at work. Sometime I even chime in. For instance, a colleague mocked me and then joked that I would surely soon start to beat him if he didn't act more carefully. I replied that unfortunately, I didn't have anything suitable to throw at him. He handed me a heavy magnet which was lying around and told me that this would surely hurt a lot. I couldn't refrain from telling him that he was displaying some very masochistic tendencies. Which he of course denied with a laugh.

Well, I am quite sure that most of my colleagues really aren't kinky. I mean, would a real kinkster talk about FIVE cane strokes? I discussed with Ludwig why the number five had been chosen both times. His idea of the most likely explanation was that vanillas are used to the decimal system. Ten strokes might seem too much, two or three too little, and so, five is obviously a likely choice. I think Ludwig's suggestion is right. Still, five doesn't fit into my kinky cosmos of numbers. But nonetheless it's fun to hear vanillas use kinky phrases at work.

How about you? Kink and work, is that a combination which can be fun for you or does the thought of colleagues making kinky jokes cause you to break out in a cold sweat? And do you think that one can distinguish kinksters from vanillas by the number of strokes they choose when making kinky jokes? You are welcome to share your thoughts and experiences in the comment section!