Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Kaelah's Corner (Aug 2011):
Dachshunds in Space

It's almost unbelievable but it's true – this is my second blogiversary! I would like to use this post to thank all of our dear readers who accompanied me on my journey. No matter whether you are a new reader of this blog, a long-time reader or someone who just comes over from time to time. Blogging without an audience is boring and it's good to have you here. A special thank you goes to all the diligent commenters and those who provide such a thoughtful input to the discussions in the comment section.

I'm not sure whether anyone still remembers my first blogiversary post, but a brief look back might bring up memories of a little let's-get-the-readers-involved operation that was started there. In short, the readers could vote for a special outfit and strokes with an implement of their choice for a small blogiversary clip.

As a result, I had to face the challenge to come up with a storyline for a clip that involved a spanking in a Star Trek outfit, consisting of two strokes with a paddle, three strokes with a flogger, nine strokes with a riding crop, eleven strokes with a switch and finally twenty-one strokes with a belt. So I did, and after quite a lot of preparation Ludwig and I filmed a little clip back in November 2010.

It took me some time to get all the post-production done (in several phases, amidst all my other work), but now I can finally proudly present to you the result of my first-ever film editing work! Of course, we didn't have any professional technical equipment and no professional set or any assistance when shooting the clip. But I think that, for a little private fun clip, the result is quite nice. And if you take a closer look, you might find out that a lot of love for detail went into it. The clip is completely in English this time, so no subtitles are necessary.

What is the storyline of the clip? Well, you'll find out when you watch it. It definitely has all the ingredients a good Star Trek fan fiction clip needs: A lot of heavy talk and a bit of action, some techno-babble (or rather, scribble), the aliens and planetary system of the week, a lot of rather stiff acting and a profound moral message.

And before anyone asks: Yes, Klingon and German accents sound quite similar! And Half-Klingon's also tend to look quite bored when they talk about their aggressive Klingon side. That doesn't mean that it isn't there, really. It's just underneath the surface, waiting to be let out... Joking aside, those of you who have read my Mind Going Blank post might recognize that there is indeed some real-life background to the premise which I have chosen.

So, I hope you'll enjoy the clip (and kindly overlook little weaknesses, especially my German accent which was quite strong on the day of the shoot). It's made for you and published for free!

WMV format, resolution 720 x 576, 238 MB: link

(Click on "Free Download", wait for the counter to count down, then solve the captcha and download the file.)

Again, thanks a lot for being here, and please enjoy! As those who have read Ludwig's Semi-Hiatus post already know, we're on a trip to Shadow Lane. That's means we won't find the time to promote this clip on forums and alike. So, if you like the clip, feel free to recommend it to your friends. And if you don't like it, simply recommend it to people you don't like, either! Anyway, it would definitely be great if you found the time to just say hi in the comment section. Constructive criticism is of course also welcome. So long, let's see what year number three will bring!

Saturday, August 20, 2011

"What Have I Done Wrong?"

Thank you all for your kind comments on Ludwig's Semi-Hiatus post! As most of you might already know, I love contributions made by our dear readers and I was very happy when I recently realised that the some of the discussions in the comment section of this blog are not only between the readers and us any more, but also among the readers themselves. So, your call for shorter posts that offer a ground for more exchange of thoughts between our readers does not go unheard. Of course, I am counting on you to join in the discussion and to share your thoughts in the comment section!

I'm not only going to ask a random question, though. Instead, I'm going to tell you a little story that raised some questions which I would like to pass on to you:

As I already told you in my post Does Your Mother Know?, I have been very open about my kink once I started exploring the world of spanking. Consequently, many of my friends and several of my family members know about my kinkiness. Both Ludwig and I also came out to our parents because we wanted them to know, even though we had of course no obligation to do so. The overall reactions of friends and family members were very positive, even from those who could not imagine how it must be to have an erotic fetish. My mum even actively supported my exploration, for example by buying me a singing bowl as a gift for Ludwig's and my first-ever play.

But Ludwig and I both also came across that one question which many parents who learn about their children's kinks for the first time might ask: “What have I done wrong?” I think it is a question that can come up irrespective of the child's age. Ludwig and I were both adults when we started exploring our kink and told our parents about it, but we were of course still our parents' children! Now, one might say that the question per se is a sign of prejudice and of a lack of acceptance of different forms of sexuality. I wouldn't interpret that question in such a negative way, though.

First of all, BDSM is unusual in the sense that it only applies to a statistical minority of people. Secondly, spankos derive pleasure (in one way or another) from something that is usually seen as unpleasant and as something that should be avoided – pain. So, I find it quite understandable that parents might ask why their child has developed an erotic desire to administer and / or receive pain. To my mind, the question “What have I done wrong?” only shows that a parent who can't relate to erotic kink cares about the child and wants to make sure that the unusual erotic fetish wasn't caused by any negative childhood experiences.

I can imagine that there might also be a lot of strange thoughts rushing through a parent's mind, depending on the gender constellation and the child's kink. For example, the father of a heterosexual woman who defines herself as a bottom might worry about not having given her enough self-confidence, so that she finally fell prey to a man who controls and beats her. The mother of a heterosexual man who sees himself as a top might worry about having been too strict with him, causing a desire to hurt and control women. I guess you can find similar potential worries for every possible combination (male, female, top, bottom). Of course, none of these worries is justified for the average kinkster, but I think that it is absolutely understandable that fears like these might arise when parents are confronted with their child's kinkiness for the very first time.

I think the least fears might be caused if a child admits to being a switch, because in that case, there doesn't seem to be a one-sided desire to give or receive pain and it becomes easier to understand that it is all about fantasies and sexual desires, not about issues of hatred or a lack of self-confidence. That's why I emphasized on being a switch when I was confronted with fears and the question what my kink was all about.

Answering the question about the origin of my kinkiness was much more difficult, though. I think I'm pretty well aware of where many of my kinky fantasies come from and what I get out of them. But I don't really know why I am / have become kinky in the first place. All I know is that I had kinky fantasies long before I knew about BDSM and erotic spanking.

So, my answer was that I didn't know why I was kinky, but that I assumed that it had something to do with either a genetic predisposition or very early childhood experiences. I compared kinkiness to homosexuality and explained that no matter how it was caused, it surely didn't have anything to do with anything my parents had done wrong. And that is what I really believe. Actually, I'm convinced that my parents did a lot of things which enabled me to live the happy kinky life I'm living today.

To my mind, my parents could have done a lot of things wrong which might then have turned my life as a kinkster into misery. For instance, they could have told me that sexuality is something dirty or evil. They could have taught me that one shouldn't talk about sexual desires. They could have given me the impression that they only love me if I'm “normal”. Or they could have subjected me to real-life CP which might have made it impossible (or at least much more difficult) for me to enjoy CP in a consensual, kinky context.

My parents did none of these things. Instead, they always gave me the feeling that I could talk to them about everything that moved me, even if they should have problems understanding it. They taught me that sexuality was something positive, something that belonged to people who care about and love each other and something one can talk about without having to be ashamed. Consequently, I very rarely struggled with my kink and I am today able to live out my sexual desires without any shame or fear.

I don't know whether I was able to explain all these thoughts that clearly when the question of “What have I done wrong?” came up. I guess I didn't. But I hope that I managed to clarify that the fear of having done anything wrong was unfounded.

Nonetheless the question “Why am I kinky?” is still unsolved for me. This question usually doesn't bother me too much, because I don't see my kinkiness as positive or negative per se. To my mind, it all depends on how someone deals with and lives out their kinky desires (or how someone feels without putting these desires into practical play). That's why the question of how kink works for others and for me has always been much more important for me than the question about the origin of kink.

Still, it remains of course an interesting field for further thoughts, especially in combination with the question of events that might have triggered this special sexual desire. I don't think that we have enough knowledge to answer the question about the origin of kink, but I asked myself whether it would change anything for me if one explanation or another turned out to be true. More precisely: Would I see my kink more negatively if it turned out that kinkiness were triggered by negative (early childhood) experiences?

I'm not necessarily talking about negative experiences that are anyone's fault. For instance, some psychologists believe that complications during birth can have a strong influence on people. My birth and the first weeks of my life didn't really run very smoothly. So, what if these negative experiences made me a spanko? Would that make my kink a negative thing?

My sense of reason says no. Just because something is caused by a negative experience doesn't mean that that something has to be negative as well. For example, having been involved in a life-threatening accident can make someone live a more mindful life. I'm not so sure about my emotional response, though. Would a revelation like that really not touch my feelings towards my kink at all? I can't tell you for sure.

So, how about you? Have you ever asked yourself about the origin of your kink or have others ever asked you about it? What do you think about this question? Do you find it interesting, unimportant or perhaps even annoying? And what if kink were caused by negative experiences? Would a revelation like that change your feelings towards your kink? Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section!

PS New commenters are always welcome! The more different the ideas and the more lively the discussion, the more interesting the whole thing gets for all of us. No matter how experienced you are - complete newbie or spanking veteran - you are all welcome. No one is going to bite you, I promise!

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

A Semi-Hiatus Announcement

As you undoubtedly noticed, the blog has been less active than usual these last few months, with the number of monthly posts slowly declining from five (May) to four (June) to three (July). Kaelah and I have been very busy, and while Kaelah was able to keep the blog somewhat alive at least, I have not done a post since June 20th.

The outlook is that it will only get worse for us in the near future, in terms of being really, monumentally busy. So I think the time has come to make an official semi-hiatus announcement. "Semi-hiatus" meaning that, hopefully, we will not cease making updates altogether, but that the blog will definitely and officially be on the backburner until the end of October. We will try to write a new little post whenever we can, but we don't want to make promises we might not be able to keep, so we are not committing ourselves to anything - until the end of October, you might get three posts per month, or more, or maybe just one. We don't know yet.

We just wanted to let you gals and guys know what is going on. The good news in all this is that the cause is not lack of motivation or lack of ideas. Actually, I have more items on my idea list for the blog than ever, and while I have had phases of burnout like every blogger, right now I would love nothing more than to have more time available so that I can go back to writing something every couple of days, like in the good old times. It is the same with Kaelah. The reason for the recent lack of posts is really just a lack of time. Once Kaelah and I finish some of our current work and clear our schedule a bit, the blog will be back to normal.

It's not like there wouldn't be anything to write about, either. Before we go on our semi-hiatus, I would like to quickly bring you up to speed on recent events: Kaelah and I just came back from a shoot with SM-Circus and Pandora Blake. Pandora and the pet-fanatical Germans are dear friends, and having worked with all of them before, it was a very cheerful, laid-back experience. Kaelah and I did a cameo, playing the owners of petgirl Pandora. While the Herr Direktor and I went to have a beer, Kaelah ended up getting assaulted and spanked on her bare bottom by two vengeful, out-of-control petgirls. Such are the disadvantages of being a teatotaller, I suppose. It was a fun little scene. Pandora already wrote about her latest circus visit on her blog, and we will post a proper report about it as well when we finally have some time.

We also attended the "BDSM Day" organised by the Bundesvereinigung Sadomasochismus e.V., a German lobby group aiming to educate people about BDSM, fight against prejudice and help kinksters who become victims of discrimination. I did a video interview with Pandora about the politics of BDSM, the legal situation in the UK, fair trade porn, and so forth. It will find its way on the web eventually and we will let you know about it once it does.

Last but not least, Pandora brought Kaelah and me a copy of the raw footage from the severe caning scene we filmed for her upcoming site. It was very exciting to take a peek. As you probably know already, Pandora is currently looking at a launch date in November. Personally, I can't wait to see the site go live. The CP video scene of today could use an injection of new energy and fresh new ideas, and Pandora's site will most certainly be that.

So much for recent events. Now, first of all, Kaelah and I are going on a holiday trip. We can really use one after the frantic schedule of the last few months and before inevitably going back to the same frantic schedule again. But, even on our holiday, we will not completely stop collecting data for the blog: we are going to the annual Shadow Lane Party for the first time and do, of course, plan to write about it. However, no promises yet as to when and how much, exactly. We might be able to already post something during the trip itself, but then again, maybe not.

All bets are off until the end of October. But do keep looking in every now and then, to see how the semi-hiatus unfolds. We will do what we can.

Saturday, August 6, 2011

A Miracle Whip?

Magical stories are a wonderful inspiration for kinky fantasies. The Male-Male Spanking Archive, for instance, features more than 300 Harry Potter-themed stories. The great thing about magic fantasy worlds is that you can have magical implements as well. But how about the real world? Ludwig surely thought that I must have been shopping at Diagon Alley when he recently took a closer look at one of my receipts.

“What's that?” he asked me, his voice showing curiosity. “What do you mean?” - “I'm talking about this item you've bought here, young lady, a MIRACLE WHIP.” Ludwig looked at me expectantly. I smiled. “I'm sorry to disappoint you, honey, but this is a supermarket receipt and they don't sell the kind of whips you have in mind.” Actually, they don't sell any kinky items at all, except for pervertibles like hair brushes, belts or wooden spoons. “And”, I added, “two Euros would be very cheap for a real miracle whip, right?”

“Okay, what is it then?” Ludwig asked, “I already assumed that it isn't anything kinky, but I've really never heard about it.” “It's a salad cream which I use for potato and noodle salads”, I explained and brought him the still half-full jar from the refrigerator.

Well, I have to admit, I would have preferred to show Ludwig a kink-suitable miracle whip instead of Miracel Whip cream (they obviously don't even know how to spell the word miracle correctly). How would that implement look like, though? And what would it be able to do that ordinary whips can't do?

However, this little episode taught me two important lessons: 1.) My mate is indeed the kinky like-minded spirit I had always been looking for. 2.) I should invite him more often to shared cooking experiences...