Tuesday, January 1, 2019

Kaelah's Corner (Dec 2018):
Happy New Year

I hope you all had a wonderful start into the new year. Ludwig and I wish you all the best for 2019, especially lots of time with loved ones and good health! We had a wonderful, relaxed start of the year.

With 2018, a turbulent year for us has come to an end. Family life with two little kids, grieving for a loved one, many private and professional obligations and almost no time for kink. Despite the negatives, it has been a year I am thankful for.

For many people, this is the time for New Year's resolutions. But not for me. My only plan is to take good care of myself and my family and to get rid of even more things which just occupy space and / or time but really aren't of any use for me (I think this is something one really learns when having to deal with the estate of loved ones). This is a goal for the rest of my life, though, nothing I'd like to achieve within a certain time period this year. Other than that I will just see what the year brings and try to make the best of it.

The last five days before New Year's eve, I've managed to practise yoga every evening, and it made me feel both physically stronger and more relaxed. I don't plan to practise daily in the future, but due to the health problems caused by giving birth and handling two little ones, a little bit of sports (core training) about two or three times a week would be great. After all, I am not getting any younger, either! ;-)

As for kink and sex life, I suppose that will play only a minor role in 2019, too. That's okay with me, though. The good thing is, the core training and especially strengthening my pelvic floor again has made my sexual mojo come back at least a little bit. For a while, it had been completely gone, and I didn't have any sexual / kinky thoughts AT ALL, which was strange and a bit frightening because I had never experienced that (in such an extreme way ) before. Maybe I'll write a post about that, too. I just hope this blog won't completely turn into a sex counseling site for elders, though! ;-) Well, let's face it, I've got that in my own hand. We'll see what 2019 brings!

For now, I wish you lots of naughtiness and kinky fun in the new year and hope that this blog will add a few ideas and fantasies to that! How about you? Do you already have (kinky) plans and resolutions? Or are you just curiously awaiting what the new year has in store for you?


Domhnall the Second said...

May you and your family experience the very best of everything in 2019.

Anonymous said...

Sorry 2018 was such a difficult year. I'm sure 2019 will be a great improvement. And now you have two children who will prove a source of great joy to you both. Best wishes, Joe.

Anonymous said...

I haven't left a comment in quite some time. Let the New Year be an excuse for me to explain why that is so.

Like you (and like Pandora, who now prefers to be called Blake) I suffered a bereavement. I am still in the midst of sorting out my mother's estate. There were several planned kinky meetings during 2018 with Blake which never happened, including 2 which were also to involve Sarah Gregory. But they did make me a lovely custom video instead.

There was eventually a play-date in mid-December, when I learned of Blake's pregnancy. I was asked then not to tell anyone, but Blake has today blogged about it, so I feel released from my vow of secrecy. I send my good wishes to kinky parents (and parents to be) everywhere. We are all children, but not everyone gets to be a parent.

I wish a (belated) happy New Year to you and your family.

James M

Kaelah said...

@ Domhnall the Second:
Thank you very much for your kind wishes! I hope 2019 started well for you and your loved ones!

@ Joe:
Thanks a lot for commenting and for your kind words. I wish you a happy, wonderful and healthy 2019!

@ James M:
Thank you very for sharing your personal experiences in 2018. My sincere condolences on the loss of your mother! Losing a parent is always so hard... I wish you a wonderful 2019, filled with joy and laughter and kinky fun and free from family tragedies! Also thanks a lot for telling us about Pandora/Blake's pregnancy. I went right to their site and read their post after having seen your comment. It's wonderful news!

Anonymous said...

It was lovely to read your news. In the past, in an unnecessarily familiar kind of way, I expressed my concern for you two. Behind the comment was a concern about how the subject of kink lived in the public eye would be managed with children. You guys are way smarter than me and it will not be a problem for you.

2019 sees us all a little older of course and at our time of life we start to count the summers from the other end. That naturally has implications for kink. My wife has mostly lost interest and I must respect that. I have a tacit permission to wander but I struggle with that. I did have my first ever professional play session in 2018 however. Everything clicked and it was perfect. I had stripes to be proud of that lasted a week. It was a switch session and despite her grimaces in anticipation it wasn't in me to reciprocate. You need to be very sure of someone else's motivation and desires before doing that and we had only just met. She got a lot of playful taps and I was happy.

Thanks as always for everything you share. Life's rich tapestry is richer for having you two to look in on. A prosperous 2019 health and happiness. (Yes, its end Feb but so what)

xx Simply

PS one of my all time best play sessions is still the one where the laptop was open and for each stroke Nikki gave Ludwig I got one immediately after Ludwig. Ouch!

Kaelah said...

@ Simply:
Thank you very much for your comment and your kind words and sorry for the late reply! Things and kink, too, change over time indeed. It seems to me that you and your wife haven't lost the most important asset of a good relationship, though – you seem to talk to each other about what you want and need and then try to find ways to make sure that you both get what you need. Your account of your first play session sounds very nice and I absolutely agree with you, I would also rather be too soft at first than go too far. I wish you and your wife all the best!