Thursday, March 31, 2016

Kaelah's Corner (Mar 2016):
On Being Mr and Mrs Rohrstock-Palast

Yes, it's true, folks! Ludwig and I are finally married. While other couples split up after seven years, we decided it was a good time to take the next step.

As you can imagine, I am not the princess type. So, there were no white horses, no carriage, no heart-shaped balloons (or white doves) or any of that stuff. Just a little ceremony followed by a party with family and friends, involving good food, lovely conversation and lots of (progressive) rock and metal music.

I didn't wear a white wedding dress, either. First of all, I don't see why I should spend so much money on a dress which I only wear once in my life. Second, white is a colour that doesn't suit me. And third, wearing a white wedding dress (the colour of innocence) simply would have been a lie! :-) So, I wore my Chinese wedding dress which harmonized wonderfully with the bridal bouquet in warm colours that Ludwig had chosen. Ludwig wore an elegant suit and looked very handsome.

Some of you might remember that I have written about my commitment phobia a while ago. We took that into account by tailoring the event according to our needs and to who we really are. No vows to love each other forever (don't get me wrong, that's of course the plan, but I don't think it's something one can promise to another person), no talk about how we can't stop thinking about each another or about wanting to be together 24/7 (a horrible idea) or about how futile our lives would be without each other (we both wouldn't want to be with a person whose only sense in life comes from being with a partner).

Instead we made a little funny, tongue-in-cheek presentation about our history and years together and the time to come. Well, at least about those parts one would want to tell one's granny about! ;-) It was a very relaxed day, much more than we had expected. And we got the most wonderful compliment that I can imagine by several of our guests. Apart from telling us that they enjoyed the party and felt very comfortable and welcome, they said that they had rarely seen a bride and groom who were so relaxed and easy-going on their wedding day!

Let's hope that this is a good omen for our upcoming years together as Mr and Mrs!


sixofthebest said...

I hope you both have spanking good times together for the rest of your married life. Congratulations to both of you.

Downunder Don said...

Oh wow, huge congratulations. Your ceremony sounds very much like mine...after 17 years of living together (can't rush these things) in the back yard with just family and a few friends, red wedding dress, maid of honour was our daughter who was 21 years old and insisted on wareing fairy wings.

I suspect that this was a statement of how you would like to spend your life together. I hope this is the start of a whole new adventure that may include many spanking days

Jimisim said...

Many congratulations. I hope you both have a very long and happy marriage.
I agree that you are very sensible to apend tens of thousands of Euros/Pounds as now seems to be the current trend.
I speak as an irritated father helplessly watching a monumental waste of money being planned!

Simon said...

Congratulations and may I wish you a long and happy life together.

Our Bottoms Burn said...

I would like to add my congratulations and wishes for many happy years together.

Chross said...

Das ist doch mal eine äußerst erfreuliche Nachricht :)!

Meine herzlichsten Glückwünsche an Euch beide!


Spearthrower said...

Congratulations! It is great that you have made the formal step in a life long commitment to each other. Marriage is never easy but it is a joy nonetheless. We have been married 39 years and still get a kick from seeing each other each day.

Secret Spanko said...

Congratulations y'all. I don't often comment on blogs as much as I used to but this is comment worthy news. Cheers!

Svetlana said...


I am glad you had such a happy and relaxed day. Princess-type weddings are indeed overrated. (Actually, I have a vague memory from the early days of Kaelah's corner of lurking around and wondering whether you'd have a Klingon wedding one day. :) )

taurusegester said...

As a photographer who used to take thousands off bride's and groom's for (beautiful) photos looked at once a year I congratulate you on your commonsense. A pragmatic attitude like this will support you commitment to each other for many years to come.
Well done and all the best

Gustofur said...

Sincere wishes for a long and happy marriage.

Anonymous said...

Congratulations and happy spankings for both of you!

MrJ said...

Many congrats!

Anonymous said...

Congratulations and happy years together.

rixrese said...

Ganz herzlichen Glückwunsch, ich fand euch beide schon lange ein tolles Paar. Und die Nachricht über die Hochzeit, die ich gerade gelesen habe, hat mich sehr beeindruckt. Sie drückt genau das aus, was wir auch denken, nur dass ich es nie hätte so gut formulieren können ...
Ich wünsche euch "tout le bonheur du monde"
Hoffentlich blockt GEMA nicht auch Sinsémilla in Deutschland.
Hier läuft es.

Anonymous said...

How fortunate you two have been to find each other.
Creating a good marriage is more difficult than the creation of the world.
My you be together always, annealing in the warmth of your mutual affection.

der_Wolf said...

Oh wow, so all the best wishes to you. Congratulations, Gesundheit und ein langes Leben! (und viele heiße Hintern... :D )

harang said...

That sounds lovely.

I probably shouldn't be surprised, as your posts are always so thoughtful and wise, but it's still refreshing to read someone whose thoughts are so similar to mine (and my partner's) on this. The idea of promising to love someone forever seems bizarre; I can't make myself feel something just because I once promised to, can I? And the idea of promising to stay together, even if we make one another miserable, is just awful. That, together with the strongly patriarchal trappings of the traditional marriage has put us off the idea. But it sounds as though you two absolutely nailed it! :-)

Kaelah said...

@ sixofthebest:
Thank you very much for your kind wishes!

@ Downunder Don:
Sounds like you didn't only have a great wedding ceremony but also have a wonderful relationship with your wife and a cool daughter! I hope that we well have such a great partnership and family as well.

@ Jimisim:
Thank you for your good wishes. I keep my fingers crossed that the upcoming wedding won't cost you a fortune!

@ Simon:
Thank you very much for your kind words!

@ Our Bottoms Burn:
Thanks for the congratulations and your kind wishes!

@ Chross:
Vielen herzlichen Dank für die netten Glückwünsche und auch für die Erwähnung bei den Spankings of the Week! Ich fürchte nur, ein paar Leser waren bestimmt sehr enttäuscht, weil sie hinter dem Link vielleicht die Ankündigung eines neuen tollen Filmproduzenten oder Spanking Clips vermutet haben. ;-)

@ Spearthrower:
That sounds like a wonderful marriage, something we would love to achieve as well.

@ Secret Spanko:
Thank you for your comment! I don't manage to comment a lot on other blogs, either, these days, so I know what you mean.

@ Svetlana:
A Klingon ceremony would indeed have been great, too, (maybe minus the broken collar bone). But I guess it would have irritated the family a bit, I suppose almost as much as a Betazoid ceremony would have. ;-)

@ taurusegester:
Thank you very much for your kind words! I would have loved to have some more outdoor pictures taken by a skilled photographer (if not a professional one). On the other hand you are right – one probably doesn't look at those pictures very often. And instead of staged professional photos we have video clips and pictures of the actual ceremony and party which I think is an even better way to commemorate the event!

@ Gustofur:
Thank you!

@ Anonymous:
Thank you for your kind comment!

@ Mr J:
Thanks a lot!

@ Anonymous:
Thank you for your kind wishes!

@ rixrese:
Willkommen und vielen herzlichen Dank für den lieben Kommentar und die guten Wünsche!

@ Anonymous:
Thank you for your comment and your kind wishes!

@ der_Wolf:
Vielen lieben Dank!

@ harang:
Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts on the subject! It's nice to see that we are not the only ones who don't want to promise something that is impossible to guarantee and can even cause a miserable life. But, hey, that doesn't mean that the concept of marriage is per se bad, as long as one lives it in a way that feels right for both partners!

Ramon Herzog said...

Wonderful news! I sicerely hope it will be a long lasting partnership. My wirfe and I have made it 36 years until now, and we are still together.
So, we wish you all the best, congratulations.

Kaelah said...

@ Ramon Herzog:
Thank you very much for your kind wishes! 36 years is a really impressive number!

Honza said...

Nice. A bit late, but all the Best.

Anonymous said...

Congratulations to you guys, I wish you all the best, really happy to hear it.

Val said...

Best wishes to the bride, and congratulations both!
Lots of happiness and good luck!

Kaelah said...

@ Honza:
Thank you very much!

@ Anonymous:
Thank you very much for commenting and for your kind words.

@ Val:
Thank you very much for your kind wishes!

skepparn said...

Lycka till!!
När kommer ni till Stockholms skärgård?
Best wishes all the same.

Kaelah said...

@ skepparn:
Welcome, thank you very much for your comment and your kind wishes! We haven't been to Stockholm, yet, but it is one of the places we would like to visit in the future.

Anonymous said...

Happiness is not the goal of marriage, but the side result of shared values and beliefs. May you become more like each other in what you value. Happiness will follow.

Abel1234 said...

I've only just seen this, very belatedly, and am delighted for you both. Hope you're loving married life.

Best wishes


Kaelah said...

@ Anonymous:
Thanks for your comment! Ludwig and I indeed have many shared values and beliefs – and their number has grown since we have become a couple. I agree with you that this is important for a happy married life.

@ Abel123:
It's wonderful to hear from you! I hope you and EJ are well. Thank you very much for your good wishes!

Dan said...

I've seen it even more belatedly, having only just stumbled upon your wonderful, thoughtful, ethical and erotically charged blog. I wish the two of you the very best of love and life.

Kaelah said...

@ Dan:
Thank you very much for stopping by and for your very kind wishes!