Professional Service

(Pixie and Lily Anna. Picture courtesy of Punished Brats.)

Tim The Tum recently wrote a very interesting series of posts about the first time he met a professional spankee / spanker for a one-on-one session with lots of switching action. You can read the two main parts of his report here and here. In another post which he wrote before his session, Tim discussed the idea of seeing a professional spankee (or spanker):

A couple of you have dropped me a line to say that you would never pay for spanking any more than you would pay for sex. Good for you. I'm knocking on the door of fifty, I'm fat and a bit balding, and my wife tolerates rather than enjoys spanking. My options are a bit limited; this is a service that, for me, gives real value. […] I think it's nice to feel that you'll be in the hands of a professional. Don't get me wrong, I'd happily session for free with any women who offered me the opportunity, and I like to think that we'd both get something out of the experience, but when you pay for something you're entitled to expect satisfaction. By which I mean, I really do hope that my partner enjoys the experience but, at the end of the day, this time it's about what I want. I'm not usually like that (honestly), but I've waited a long while, and my needs are simple; I want a bottom to smack without worrying that she isn't into it, and I want someone to spank me who won't be worn out after a couple of minutes.

Pixie also published a post about paid sessions a while ago which I think covers the topic wonderfully from two sides, the perspective of a woman who sought a professional when she was new to the scene and the perspective of a professional who now offers paid sessions herself. About her own reasons for having sought to meet a professional spanker, Pixie wrote:

I wanted to play with a top who met with my specifications to live out my personal spanking fantasy. I had a certain vision in mind for the scenario, for the style of play, the type of interaction. Yes I’d have to pay when I could probably meet for free play with someone else, but it’s a bit like coming up with an idea for a movie. You can give someone an idea and let them run with it and you may or may not get what you envisioned in the end, or you can fund and produce it yourself so as to have much more say in the final outcome. I was willing to pay for the chance to have the fantasy that was floating around in my head for years to come to life. I also did not have the fear that things beyond my limits or expectations would occur and that was of comfort to me […].

Pixie put her view as a professional spanker and spankee as follows: There is a big difference between session play and free play [...] in that sessions will be an hour or more of time exclusively devoted to what the paying party is seeking. I’m hoping to fulfill their fantasy just as I had hoped to fulfill mine when I sought a paid pro. It’s their scenario, their outfit requests, their time. As long as it falls within proper safety precautions and the agreed upon limits ahead of time, I do my best to shape myself into what the other person is seeking. Sometimes I absolutely have a blast as we are on the same page in our definition of spanking fun and sometimes it just isn’t my personal preference but that’s not what is important in a paid session. It’s about what the paying person seeks.

(Pandora and Molly. Picture courtesy of Dreams of Spanking.)

And finally, Pandora announced in this post that she is now comfortable with offering two-to-one switching sessions together with her new lover Molly Malone to people whom she knows from the scene. She had made some experiences with private paid sessions accompanying Zoe Montana earlier. That's when she found out that she liked sessions with private customers. Pandora wrote: It turned out that I really enjoyed not only the roleplay and having an audience while getting spanked by Zoe, but I also loved to watch her spanking men. Above all, I loved the opportunity to talk to different people about their spanking kink. I heard some fascinating stories, became increasingly aware of my own good fortune in having regular spanking relationships, and found it genuinely fulfilling to play a small role in providing a beneficial, therapeutic, sexy spanking experience for someone who really needed it.

Now, I have never visited a professional for a paid session because I was lucky enough to meet Ludwig only a short time after I had entered the community and so I asked him to introduce me to the world of spanking as a friend. I absolutely see the advantages of paying for a spanking session, though: the safety issues mentioned by Pixie as well as the chance to bring one's personal fantasies to life despite of not having a partner or close friend with whom that would be possible.

Ludwig has done that for his first experiences as well. He booked sessions with professional dommes who had good reputations because, even though Ludwig is a top, he wanted to know what a spanking feels like before administering one. And so he started his journey on the bottom side. Ludwig has planned to write about these experiences in a separate post one day, but in short, paying a professional spanker turned out to be a great choice, especially for the very first experience. And Ludwig also confirmed what all the different reports from which I quoted some excerpts in this post wonderfully show as well – that paying a professional spanker or spankee doesn't mean that the session has to be a cold or soulless experience. If the chemistry is right, it can be a wonderful experience indeed.

Nonetheless, I think there are quite a few people for whom paying for a spanking session or being paid for has a negative image. And I assume that women are generally more reluctant to pay for spanking sessions than men. Maybe because it is often easier for women to find a play partner, maybe because paying for erotic services is still less common among women than it is among men.

I have to admit that I am not sure whether I would pay for a spanking session if I didn't have Ludwig any more. It's not that I would consider paying for a spanking session morally wrong, not at all. But I probably would not go to spanking parties in order to have a chance to play, either, because I feel more comfortable playing with people with whom I have a close connection aside from kink and whom I have met several times before. And, while spanking fantasies are in my head very often, bringing them to life is not so important to me, aside from the more intimate play in my relationship and the creative act of making videos. But that is the topic for another post.

So, what about you? Can you imagine paying for a professional spanking session? Can you imagine being paid for offering a spanking? Why yes, or why not? And finally: Which special fantasy would you love to make come true if you had both the people and the equipment to make it happen?