M/M Spankings: A Heterosexual Man's View

(M/M school spanking role-play. Picture courtesy of Sting Pictures.)

I have written about my F/F spanking play experiences as a heterosexual woman and about the appeal that M/M spanking scenes have for me. There are many posts written by heterosexual men on their liking of F/F scenes and there are blogs written by male gays which feature lots of M/M spanking content. But I haven't come across any posts written by heterosexual men about M/M spanking, yet.

There are heterosexual men out there who enjoy watching M/M clips, though. Ludwig, for example, once had a subscription to Spanking Central because he was curious and, even though M/M isn't his most favourite constellation, he enjoyed the effort which they put into their videos. Some heterosexual men even go one step further and participate in M/M spanking play. I haven't read anything about their experiences though.

For obvious reasons I can't write a post about M/M spanking scenes from the view of a heterosexual male. But for me this is a very intriguing topic, so I decided to ask a heterosexual man who has made experiences with M/M play instead. Our regular readers know him as an avid commenter on this blog – please welcome Donpascual! Donpascual was so kind to answer my questions about his view on M/M spanking play and his personal experiences. I think he has very fascinating tales to tell. Please enjoy.

Donpascual, a warm welcome and thank you very much for having taken the time to share your experiences! Could you please tell our readers a few words about yourself?

Being an Oldie now, I have been nurturing a life long spanking passion: It started out with collecting magazines and books. Later, I found a few terrible 8mm films without sound and copies of copies of VHS rip offs (Soho took a lot of my money over the years). Then digital DVDs became available, and finally downloads of all kinds of kinky stuff followed. Collecting spankobilia certainly was a nice hobby, but far more important: I was lucky enough to find a lovely wife as a spanking partner and tolerant accomplice regarding my activities as a top. I have been a witness to the whole development of the spanko scene. At the end, I also participated in spanking events and even organized some of them myself on behalf of "SpankingFreunde". Getting interviewed by a well known Blogger now, adds a finishing touch to an interesting spanker's career.

That sounds like a very exciting life spiced up with lots of spanking fun. And thank you for that lovely compliment, it is my pleasure that you are willing to share your story here on our blog! Now, the main reason why I asked you for an interview is the fact that you, being a heterosexual man, have made experiences with M/M play. What was the background of your first M/M scene?

The setting or scenario, where this happened for the first time, was a weekend of boarding school play with both genders as submissives. We had some tops as teachers, and I was supposed to play the headmaster. Whoever misbehaved – always deliberately of course - could have gotten away with corner time or a few swats on a fully covered bottom in the class room. At the teacher's discretion, however, it could also mean a trip to the headmaster's study carrying a punishment slip.

There, the culprit would receive a distinctly harsher treatment: the belt or cane given on the bare bottom. As a rule it was a one to one affair, and not much humiliation to endure. The "girls" had no problems with this, nor did I. But since we had a mixed class, the "boys" were liable to get the same treatment when really displeasing the teacher.

Thus I was confronted – fully virginal and unprepared for an encounter with a man – with two "boys" sent for punishment. Both "boys" were experienced bottoms, one of them a wiry sporty type wearing an old fashioned tight Lederhose (leather shorts), which I remembered from my own childhood, seventy years ago, when I had worn such a very practical garment myself. The other one was a lovely transvestite, a rather charming young lady in a perfectly fitting original English school uniform.

How did your first M/M scene unfold and what were your feelings at the time?

I simply had no plan how to handle the situation. You might speculate – at least as a possibility – that I could not force myself to touch a man on such short notice. You would be wrong. Since the rules for playing had been agreed upon beforehand, everyone knew what to expect. I was the top and they had accepted their roles as bottoms. Why should I find it difficult, strange, abhorrent, perverse, or distasteful to spank a male bottom? After all, a bottom is a bottom! Or is it?

With the chronological order of punishments I was lucky. The first six of the best I delivered on the leather pants stretched to bursting point. OK, right, I played for time until cornered and forced to go all the way for a bared bottom. But mind you, I remembered very well from my days as an eight years old - were the stick in school was as normal as nose bleeding in a fight - the fear of the intense sting of a cane thrashing down on a drum-tight leather bottom compressing the cheeks underneath without option to escape. It hurts!

This first caning of a grown man therefore was very much more a trip down memory lane, not at all a question of "should I dare?", "Can I do it?", "Will he resent it?" I had a task at hand and was jolly well going to make it sting! And I knew, it would sting! A lot!

In the back of my head, I also knew that this was role playing, and everybody was participating quite voluntarily. He had been bidding his time for the whole first day, cautiously "testing the waters" until he finally summoned his courage on the second day, and decided to go for the jackpot, so to speak.

So he had to stretch over the low horse, bottom well presented and I made him count out six pretty hard stingers. Of course he got a telling off beforehand. This always was the hardest part for me: Telling off a culprit in a role play can be quite a strain on the face muscles.

This first caning, I do not remember very well; the second and third all the better. For the second caning, I simply increased the number of strokes; and I made sure, he felt them. But the whole thing developed to a sort of a contest. When he turned up for the third time, I had no choice. Following a few scathing remarks about his constant lack of appropriate behaviour, a told him to lower his pants. Down they came as a matter of fact and there he stood - naked. I did not expect that, but I should have (as boys we loved to wear the leather on bare skin).

His bottom was very lean and muscular, not at all displeasing or unattractive. I caned him two dozen times and heard some moaning for the first time. Interesting that I was keen on getting some noticeable reward for my ministrations, instead of pondering about the altogether incredible situation, or refusing to go all the way including baring his butt.

Well, this scene was unusual, in a way, because he was a homosexual in an M/M relationship. For him, it was quite normal to bare his bottom to another man; for me, it was absolutely new territory. Nevertheless, I did not judge it quite as exotic as it most probably was – as seen from the outside.

Were you involved in another M/M scenario on that weekend?

Indeed I was. Later that afternoon, our transvestite schoolgirl paid me a visit. "She" was a carefully groomed young man of middle height with a slim but not particularly athletic body. When I first met him/her, he was discussing sports cars at the bar! There was absolutely no telling that he might climb into women’s clothes within the hour.

"She" later told me that "she" was used to be spanked quite severely by male friends but did not have or want sex with them. With "her" I felt quite comfortable. Evidently, the old M/F pattern took over, particularly when baring "her" cleanly shaven, very womanly bottom. I almost took it easy on "her" as I did with the other "girls". But "she" told me not to hold back and "she" departed with a nice set of welts.

In a way, your first M/M experiences happened a bit unexpectedly in a situation where you had to muster determination not to back out of what was confronting you. Did you ever participate voluntarily in another M/M scene again later?

In fact I did on a few more occasions, however, without much enthusiasm. Probably, I would spank men again, depending on the right occasion and an agreeable mutual chemistry with an attractive bottom. Most likely, my ideal male bottom would have to be a friend, not a total stranger. Altogether, I might accept all kinds of partners except the typical middle aged pain addict and femdom victim. That has something to do with aesthetic limits on my side.

Complete nudity is not really necessary either, as you have stated [in the post about M/M play from a woman's point of view]. It is absolutely possible to think of a tableau with two completely dressed men as nevertheless electrifying. But – as a rule – I would want to bare his bottom depending on the script.

I certainly do not get any sexual gratification out of spanking men, but I also do not resent them as bottoms. My role topping a male bottom is most likely that of the classical helper, fulfilling the bottom's fantasies. That discussion about who is in the end topping whom is age old, of course. No need to go into that now.

Have you ever watched an M/M spanking clip?

I have been looking at a lot of M/M websites and downloaded many videos. Nearly all of them are involving gay bottoms and tops, particularly the ones involving twinks. It is a shame, that especially these young men with rather attractive bodies and well formed bottoms are mostly gay. The plainly sexual mood is not what I would want to get involved in.

As you have put it, we both like the purely punitive nonsexual M/M play which is so dam difficult to find. And you are right, mixed gender group play with several participants is not available on a video.

But once, I have participated in a wild weekend party, where the men got spanked by several tops, male and female. That was also the only occasion, where I have switched. And that is another lesson to be learned: public play follows chaotic rules and you never know whether you find yourself in quite unexpected situations. Simply relax, have fun, and enjoy!

That already sounds like a good conclusion for this interview! If you had to offer a short additional conclusive statement on your view on M/M play, though, what would that be?

If the top is not gay, a man as bottom cannot offer much in terms of excitement. But it can be entertaining spanking another man, nevertheless. The fun factor may be discovered in creative role playing. In mixed company, I would participate in a "free for all" any time, as I once did with a group of friends.

Thank you very much for having taken the time for this interview, Donpascual! I have to say that your point of view on M/M spankings reminds me very much of my own feelings towards F/F play.

Dear readers, I hope you enjoyed this interview. Please feel free to post remarks, questions or your own tales and experiences in the comment section. Donpascual also asked my to publish his e-mail address, in case someone wants to ask a question but is too shy to do so publicly. You can contact Donpascual at donpascual ~at~ aol ~dot~ com.