Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Kaelah's Corner (Dec 2013):
Still Alive

It's the last day of 2013 and my last post for this year. Normally, this would be the time to look back to and marvel at all the kinky fun that was had in the past twelve month. This year there isn't much for Ludwig and me to look back to, though, at least in regard to sex and kink. It's only been in the last couple of weeks that my kinky mojo has slowly started to return.

Soon Ludwig and I will celebrate our fifth anniversary. I didn't know this before, but it seems that the forth year is the one in which most couples part. According to some studies, it's the time when the hormones that are running wild when two people fall in love have completely returned back to normal, which can lead to significant changes in the relationship.

Just at this time, there have been other major changes in my life as well and there are several more to come soon for both Ludwig and me. These changes have also affected our relationship, much more than I thought they would. I'm not good at dealing with changes and they often scare me and raise doubts. To cut a long story short, there were times in 2013 when both Ludwig and I were not sure whether our relationship would survive until the end of the year. But now the year is over and we are still here. We are adapting to the changes and we know that there are even more to come in 2014, but we are still together and it seems like we might be on the mend.

I have learned some important things about us during this year. Even in the darkest times, when fears and anger come up, neither of us runs away. Instead, we stay in close contact, we talk a lot and we treat each other with respect and care. Plus, we remain open and honest. In my opinion, these are rare qualities, and very important ones for a successful long-term relationship.

I'm not really sure what 2014 will bring vanilla- and kink-wise, but I would like to post more regularly again. And I would like to write about several topics which have to do with long-term relationships and kink. It is also likely that Ludwig and I will start to explore our kink more intensely again. We are getting back in the mood and have already talked about some ideas for the upcoming year.

Until then, thank you very much to all of you who accompanied us during the last year! I wish you all the best for 2014 and hope to see you all there, happily and healthily. Please keep your fingers crossed that the upcoming year will be the year of Ludwig and Kaelah 2.0, our newly evolved love-relationship after times of struggling and change!


sixofthebest said...

Kaelah, First to you and Ludwig, Happy New Year 2014. I have always liked this spanking blog, that both of you have shared so beautifully. I hope it will continue this way into the future. Whatever you both decide, I am sure, that the spanking community, which has grown tremendously these past few years will be with you both. Thanks, and spanks.

sixofthebest said...

Kaelah, first to you and Ludwig, let me wish both of you a Happy New Year 2014. And I am sure this wish goes from all of us in the spanking community, that has grown tremendously in these past few years, I am sure that whatever you and Ludwig decide, what is best for the two of you. The spanking community will be with you both.


Have a great 2014. I hope that you both enjoy it and enjoy each other :)


ronnie said...

Happy New Year Kaelah and Ludwig.


Gustofur said...

Happy New Year to you and Ludwig.
My wife and I are into our 53rd year now. I have always been "kinky", she is vanilla, but a willing explorer in our early years. I really enjoy your posts because you intelligently cover both sides of your relationship. Please keep posting.

Spearthrower said...


I was going to say much the same as Gustofor. My wife and I don't get to 53 (!!) but are now in our 37th year. Like Gustofor I have always been kinky and in the first few years my wife did play along -- but stopped. Ah, well. We can't always get all of what we might individually want in relationships. I think it took at least ten years to get used to each other.

I trust you both have a healthy, happy, productive and kinky 2014!

Like the other posters, I very much enjoy the blog.

Respecting Mistress said...

Hi Kaelah.

First let me wish you and Ludwig a very Happy New Year. I hope that your '2.0 love-relationship' now flourishes. Thank you so much for all your blog posts - you've written some truly eloquent and inspirational stuff.

I'm glad to hear than it's the fourth year that's the most difficult. Mistress and I are into our eighth and going from strength to strength though even we've faced some difficult times with our DD lifestyle recently - mainly because of my mindset brought on by other changes in our working lives.

But aren't all relationships challenged by evolution and change? Sharing the burden and moving forward together helps strengthen the relationship.

Here's to healthy and kinky 2014.


peter8862 said...

Kaelah and Ludwig - I shall echo the sentiments Gustofur and all the many others have expressed by saying an earnest thank you for the wit and wisdom of the blogs of the past five years and sending my selfish wish that you stay together.
In my day, it was called the "Seven Year Itch" but for most couples, married or not, it resulted in a mellowing of feelings towards each other that lasted fifty years or more. In my case, it lasted 47 years till cancer took its toll.
As gk says, a Healthy and a Kinky 2014 to us all! Peter

Kaelah said...

@ sixofthebest:
Thank you very much for your kind words! All the best to you for 2014 as well.

@ Spankedhortic:
A happy 2014 to you, too, Prefectdt!

@ Ronnie:
Thanks for stopping by. May 2014 be a wonderful year for you and P.

@ Gustofur:
Thank you very much for your comment! 53 years is indeed a very impressive number. It's very comforting to hear from someone who is much more experienced with this relationship thing than Ludwig and I are. I hope to read more from you when I write some more posts about the subject of love, sexuality, kink and relationships! A happy 2014 to you and your wife.

@ Spearthrower:
Thank you very much for sharing your experiences. It's great to learn a bit more about one's readers. 37 years is a very impressive number, too! I have understood that relationships undergo different phases and I try to be more relaxed and calmer, even when things aren't always running smoothly. As I already wrote in my reply to Gustofur, I plan to publish some more posts about the subject of love, sex, kink and relationships. I would love to hear your thoughts on the subject. Wishing you and your wife a great 2014!

@ Respecting Mistress:
A happy 2014 to you and your Mistress as well and all the best for your relationship! I think you are right, facing challenges is a vital part of love relationships. I think I have to learn to become more relaxed about it all. I am curious to find out what I will have to tell about 2014 in one year from now.

@ Peter 8862:
A healthy, happy and of course kinky New Year to you as well! Your marriage is another wonderful example that things can work out fine, even if life is not always easy. I hope that the mellowing of feelings which you describe will happen to Ludwig and me as well over time. Cancer is indeed a horrible disease and I am sorry that it kept you from reaching 50 years and more together with your wife.