This month was the seventh anniversary of Ludwig's and my first-ever play together. It marked my introduction into the world of erotic spanking and also was an important step on our way to becoming a couple. Looking back, I am still very happy that my “first spanking” was such a wonderful experience, with so much preparation and ceremony.
We re-enacted a part of that very first scene in our clip Enter the Dachshund which was my starting point into making kinky video clips. I still like that video, too, even though my reactions might be a bit too restrained for some viewers and I certainly would be more open to showing (at least slightly) stronger reactions today, as you will be able to see in the remaining videos which are still to be published.
I think that both occasions required very similar conditions in order to become the good, empowering experiences that they were for me: trust, open communication, respect and true care for each other. Those qualities, which already played a role in the ceremony seven years ago, are also the cornerstones for our relationship today.
But years later, it also became clear to Ludwig and me that in addition to all the preconditions we took care of, we were simply lucky that everything worked out so well. For instance, we filmed the action scene twice for the clip because when we watched the footage together, we found out that we both weren't quite happy with the look of the first take. I'm very glad that we had an eye on this before editing the clip and agreed on taking the time to shoot the scene again, because otherwise publishing the clip could easily have made me feel uneasy instead of happy.
And during our first play there also was one scene which Ludwig and I described as follows in our original account (Ludwig's comments are italic, mine bold): For the caning, I wanted to up the ante even more. “Since this is the grand finale, you are going to take everything off now” I told Kaelah. “Understood?” She nodded. So, after removing her bra and knickers as instructed, she stood before me in her full naked glory. I ordered her to stand up straight and put her hands behind her head. [You also told me to spread my legs a bit!] “You are very beautiful” I said while I took a good long look at her, first from behind, then from the front. After a brief pause, I stepped up to Kaelah, touched her upper left arm which she was holding behind her head, and ran my finger down the side of her body, barely missing her left breast. She didn't say anything, but I could tell that it was having an effect. [I was at least quite irritated. I hadn’t expected something like that and was trying to integrate the situation into my mindset. It was a strange mixture. In my mindset I saw it as a kind of obedience test. That fitted to the master / student scenario. But of course standing like that in front of a man who obviously enjoyed it also raised different thoughts…]
“It's a bit different from being in the sauna, isn't it?” I remarked casually, referring to something Kaelah had said during our first talk, when I asked her if she would have any objections against being naked. Kaelah suppressed a grin. “Yes, a little” she said quietly. [Since I thought of the whole thing as a kind of test, I tried to be really honest with my answer, like we had agreed beforehand. So, I needed a few seconds to think about the question. It’s not completely different, I thought, because being naked is something natural and I feel safe with Ludwig and not very ashamed, almost like being naked in the sauna. But, on the other hand, this was an erotic situation and being naked was a part of that erotic experience, so it somehow was different. And, of course, I usually don’t stand around in a position like that in the sauna! ;-)]
As you might already be able to see from the text, we both interpreted the scene slightly differently, so that it fitted into our respective mindsets. I suppose we both didn't have a clue how easily that little intermezzo could have given the scene a negative turn. Years later Ludwig touched my breast unexpectedly in a scene that was supposed to be a more formal one in my view. That stirred up bad memories referring to an incident from the distant past I hadn't even been aware of anymore. Of course Ludwig couldn't know about it, either, neither when it happened nor many years earlier during our first scene.
Today we both know many possible landmines we have to be careful about both in our vanilla relationship and in our kinky play. But even the most careful behaviour and planning doesn't guarantee that things can't go wrong at a certain point. So, I'm all the more thankful that my introduction into the world of erotic spanking was such a thrilling and wonderful experience.
How about you? Is there any very special kinky play you love to remember? Are you aware of any scenes that could have easily gone wrong at a certain point but luckily didn't? Or is there a scene that unexpectedly went wrong and in that gave you new insights about yourself or your play partner? You are very welcome to share your thoughts and memories in the comment section!