tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post759053896115539058..comments2023-10-18T09:35:55.767+02:00Comments on LUDWIG'S ROHRSTOCK-PALAST: Kaelah's Corner (Mar 2015): BindungsangstLudwighttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14975294529532823252noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-31915330231273431812015-05-02T16:09:51.951+02:002015-05-02T16:09:51.951+02:00@ Anna:
Thank you very much for your encouraging c...@ Anna:<br />Thank you very much for your encouraging comment and congratulations on 46 years with your husband! I think sharing something like our kink can surely increase the chance of fighting for a relationship and staying together. Not only because of the sexual compatibility but also because telling one another about one's kinky fantasies takes a lot of trust and good communication skills. Two things which in my opinion are a good foundation for a long-lasting relationship.Kaelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108718924415630397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-90837124772885154672015-04-23T11:01:47.691+02:002015-04-23T11:01:47.691+02:00My husband and I too have certainly had difficult ...My husband and I too have certainly had difficult moments over the years, including a two-year separation around the twenty-five year mark, but here we are now closing in on our forty-sixth anniversary, still together, still spanking. I can't help wondering if in fact our luck in sharing this kink has motivated us to work things out when without that compatibility, we might have given up. Just a thought. Best,<br />AnnaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-87230159299583328762015-04-19T15:45:21.809+02:002015-04-19T15:45:21.809+02:00@ Anna:
Thank you very much for your lovely commen...@ Anna:<br />Thank you very much for your lovely comment! As my mother used to say: "Everything has got its time in life." Writing a blog can be lots of fun, but at certain times withdrawing from the public eye and focussing on one's private life can be a good decision as well. There will be some more clips before we close down this blog, though. And I think it is important to write about the aspects that are difficult in a long-term relationship, too. All too often, (kinky) blogs only focus on the fun which in my opinion can create the impression that a good relationship should be easy and fun all the time. I think that good relationships are the ones that last through difficult times as well, though, which is why I find it important to honestly write about these aspects, too.<br /><br />@ Spearthrower:<br />Thanks a lot for sharing your experiences! I assume there are almost as many women who suffer from commitment phobia as men. Maybe many of them belong to the passive type, though. I find it very reassuring to hear from someone like you who has managed to maintain such a good relationship for so many years that the initial difficulties are normal. I hope that Ludwig and I will have as many happy years together as you and your wife!<br /><br />@ Bob S:<br />Thank you! I have to admit that it didn't feel as if it took a lot of courage, though. The only thing I wanted to make sure was that Ludwig was comfortable with what I wrote in this post. Apart from that it didn't bother me to write honestly about my commitment phobia because, as I already wrote in my reply to Anna's comment, I find it important that difficulties in relationships are openly discussed as well. Because then people won't so easily feel like something is wrong with them or like they have failed if they stumble across difficulties in their own relationships. At least that's what I hope for.<br /><br />@ Eric:<br />Thank you very much for your kind comment! You are right, reminding oneself that life is rather short can sometimes put things into the right perspective.Kaelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108718924415630397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-53802409638511676472015-04-18T00:10:03.054+02:002015-04-18T00:10:03.054+02:00Dear Kaelah,
Transitions are difficult and relatio...Dear Kaelah,<br />Transitions are difficult and relationships evolve, but fortunately from what I've seen in your post, the two of you have many other interests to share and enjoy. This should give you confidence as your both mature enough to know that a relationship can't be sustained on sex alone - kinky or not. Enjoy each others company! Life is too short not to. - Eric Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-70519683063790605202015-04-12T04:51:21.369+02:002015-04-12T04:51:21.369+02:00It took real courage to write this column.It took real courage to write this column.Bob Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04463008164986706212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-57958495681529888642015-04-09T03:59:35.868+02:002015-04-09T03:59:35.868+02:00Kaelah
And I thought it was men that had commitme...Kaelah<br /><br />And I thought it was men that had commitment phobia! This is a heartfelt and very lovely posting. Having been in a relationship now for more than 40 years, I can attest how difficult the initial years can be. I think it took my wife and I about a decade to really get used to each other. Of course, sex is important in any relationship but what is much more important is companionship, mutual respect and a good proportion of common interests. And if there can be some spanking in the mix, so much the better! You'll undoubtedly work through any kinks in the relationship (pun intended). Good luck!!Spearthrowernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-69860231610258276512015-04-06T04:41:04.689+02:002015-04-06T04:41:04.689+02:00Dear Kaelah,
thank you for sharing with us your jo...Dear Kaelah,<br />thank you for sharing with us your journey in kink since you and Ludwig got together. I have always admired your honesty, and this post only serves to increase my respect.<br /><br />Now, however, I also applaud your decision to withdraw from the public eye and live your lives in private. Enough is enough of being always under scrutiny (although if the occasional video were to show up on Spanking Tube ...).<br /><br />So all the best to you both, and sincere good wishes for your future happiness.<br /><br />AnnaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-33744524691308411582015-04-02T15:29:03.363+02:002015-04-02T15:29:03.363+02:00@ Downunder Don:
Thank you very much for your kind...@ Downunder Don:<br />Thank you very much for your kind words! We certainly aren't people who give up easily. :-)<br /><br />@ Tommy Tucker:<br />Thanks a lot for sharing your experiences! I think these things are very difficult to figure out and to deal with. I assume that even many people who don't suffer from commitment phobia split up with their first boyfriend / girlfriend once the initial feeling of infatuation starts to fade and the daily routine sets in because they think this means that something is wrong with their relationship. And I am sure that many people who are scared of too much intimacy don't have a clue that this is the case. I guess that most of them are of the opinion that they simply haven't found Mr or Mrs Right or that open relationships are better anyway. I am happy that you have found the special person you want to be with and that the two of you are happy together despite of some struggling along the road!Kaelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108718924415630397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-64584444299161123392015-04-01T23:13:26.187+02:002015-04-01T23:13:26.187+02:00Keelah, you have explained it very well. As I read...Keelah, you have explained it very well. As I read your message I had a the feeling that at the end of it you would explain how you and Ludwig had decided to break up. It was lovely to get to the end and to hear that you were going to work things out. I really hope that you do so and I have a feeling that you will go on to be very happy together. I think I identified with your story in lots of ways. I am sure that getting closer is the answer rather than pushing away and trying to find some one else. I have made that mistake myself and luckily the special person that I pushed away has taken me back. I will not lose her again. You are smarter than me because you have found this out at a much younger age than I did. Good luck to you both<br /><br />Tommy TuckerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-81029473256960185372015-03-31T21:33:54.977+02:002015-03-31T21:33:54.977+02:00Dear Kaelah,
This is a most heart felt post. I kno...Dear Kaelah,<br />This is a most heart felt post. I know that no words from outside will change anything, but you have my most deep feelings of support that you can work through and that you and Ludwig can find peace and happiness togetherDownunder Donhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07743435411018893484noreply@blogger.com