tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post2646971633841325818..comments2023-10-18T09:35:55.767+02:00Comments on LUDWIG'S ROHRSTOCK-PALAST: StrengthLudwighttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14975294529532823252noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-71848803531451026822012-02-20T22:34:30.433+01:002012-02-20T22:34:30.433+01:00@ Fenris:
I think we are quite similar in many way...@ Fenris:<br />I think we are quite similar in many ways. I'm not so much into small talk, either. Luckily I have become more comfortable with peer groups and at party events in the last years. It is something I actively worked at and I found out that I'm actually not as bad at it as I always thought. Today I enjoy going to parties and other events, as long as I have the feeling that the people who are attending are somehow on a similar “wavelength”.<br /><br />I absolutely agree with you about strong people – they are the ones that make others feel comfortable in their presence.<br /><br /><br />@ Our Bottoms Burn & Donpascual:<br />Thanks for sharing your thoughts and ideas!<br /><br />I guess I didn't express myself very well concerning the topic of spanking parties. Actually I don't seek participating in any big spanking play events much at all. It's not that I am afraid of being forced to do something that I don't like, but I don't have a strong desire to play with others anyway. And then I prefer small groups and a relaxed environment instead of a big party.<br /><br />The major reason for me to think about participating in such an event is that I would like to share time with people I like and whom I don't get to see very often (mostly fellow kinksters from the UK and the USA). But the parties they usually attend seem to be so different from my kink that I'm not sure whether I would fit in. And inviting them all to Germany of course isn't so easy, either, since they are all living so far away...Kaelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108718924415630397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-31972776462965695582012-02-20T18:45:27.807+01:002012-02-20T18:45:27.807+01:00First a few musings on strength.
Quite evidently,...First a few musings on strength.<br /><br />Quite evidently, there are alpha-animals who are quite aware of their strength and are making use of it. But there are others – and I think it’s the majority – whose strength comes from within and they are often not aware of it. My mother was such a person. She raised my sister and me by willpower only, without money, without a well paid job, and without her husband who was – at that time - prisoner of war. That I consider strength! <br />Strength is also shown, as Fenris said, if not displaying it or showing off with it. I realized that I have strength, after I managed a whole (successful) business life without shouting, insisting on status symbols, fighting, and spinning intrigues. You can also call this authority.<br />I am not bragging about this, but only telling you, what others have made me aware of.<br />And one more very important aspect of strength: it is always associated with weakness, too, because we are all prone to make mistakes. Not being perfect can demolish many an ego. Every powerful person I have known did show weakness at one occasion or other. <br /><br />It seems that women often have problems to accept their bodies and even see problem zones where there are none. Again – in my view – that is not weakness, but rather a gender specific hang up which men are nearly free of. The age old quip that “a man without a belly is a cripple” has more truth to it than it might sound. Seemingly, our own robust attitude is fuelled by the insecurities of the other gender. <br /><br />But so far, I have only confirmed what has been written already. You, Kaelah, write that you have problems with joining into kinky play within groups or events and don’t like to be forced to go along with something others have decided. <br /><br />Our bottoms burn has made quite a reasonable proposal: Why not organize your own small events with only people attending you either know, or you are at least not afraid of to blow your cover? A few guests should be carefully selected and trusted strangers though, in order to help you working on that fear you are feeling towards the unknown. As you know, I have made this experience and simply let myself been pulled into the midst of things. If Ludwig is present, what should possibly happen? And playing school is not the only theme for a spanking event. <br /><br />As to your very special interest profile:<br /><br />Finding men to spank should open more doors than you can possibly manage to run in. At least 90% of all submissive men are looking for a female top. Just have a look at the ads of men looking for a domme. <br /><br />Watching M/M can be arranged as well. You have already contacts into the scene. <br /><br />Any way you are looking at it you fit well into our kinky scene. There are subgroups catering to just about every special interest whether it is licking toes or getting off on amputations. Why on earth shouldn’t you find a way to watch M/M play live and in colour? <br /><br />Your preferences are mainstream, not something extremely rare or outside the kinky realm.<br /><br />The questions at the end of your pretty complicated post are loaded too. But at least some answers:<br />Self-doubts? Yes, but also envy: I wish to be 20 years younger (at least), although being a genuine grandpa has something for many role plays. But certainly I have no doubts about wanting to be a spanker. Reading blogs is always providing nutrition for thought, of course.Donpascualnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-63983640733610578262012-02-19T14:15:47.548+01:002012-02-19T14:15:47.548+01:00Why not have your own small event? Invite the peop...Why not have your own small event? Invite the people who are into the same scenes you are. You should have no problem finding men who will do M/M scenes for you or finding men you want to top.Our Bottoms Burnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11365742469460740718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-22373461732184571872012-02-18T21:30:24.613+01:002012-02-18T21:30:24.613+01:00I share your opinion concerning the characteristic...I share your opinion concerning the characteristics of so called "strong" persons. In my professional career, I have met several persons whom I consider to be just extraordinary. They were, of course, very good at what they did, but they had other traits in common which find my utmost admiration. They were very quiet, they do not have to show off their abilities or superiority, they make other persons of lower status feel comfortable and never shout at those who cannot defend themselves. Generally speaking, if you are around these persons, you have the feeling that nothing bad can happen. When I was younger, I never really had a role model. But if I will possess some of the inner strength of these individuals in the future, I can consider myself lucky.<br /><br />Insecurities are nothing strange to me. For example, I do feel insecure in peer groups as well, as I am not the one who likes boasting and getting all the attention. I am mostly not interested in small talk, so I do not join the discussion about the latest TV shows or other yellow press gossip. <br /><br />Sometimes, I wish I was better at getting to know other people, to be less introverted, less melancholic, less emotional vulnerable.<br /><br />Only recently, I have learned to accept some of my character traits, including my kink.<br /><br />Some blog posts do indeed make me feel insecure when I read how other people are living out their kink at parties with lots of like-minded individuals, but on the other hand, there are bloggers who admit insecurities and describe their personal way to explore their kink.<br />These blogs, including this one, helped me a lot to accept my kink.Fenrisnoreply@blogger.com