tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post2065631366048518520..comments2023-10-18T09:35:55.767+02:00Comments on LUDWIG'S ROHRSTOCK-PALAST: Point of No ReturnLudwighttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14975294529532823252noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-69127574066852695462012-08-04T17:48:08.287+02:002012-08-04T17:48:08.287+02:00@ zenoida:
Welcome, and thanks a lot for commentin...@ zenoida:<br />Welcome, and thanks a lot for commenting! Not having to hide is a wonderful, liberating thing, isn't it? :-)Kaelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108718924415630397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-45087145624735396622012-08-02T20:12:12.221+02:002012-08-02T20:12:12.221+02:00I totally agree with you. My point of no return wa...I totally agree with you. My point of no return was when I started contacting real kinksters after a long failed relationship.. It's fantastic, and I never want to be without it. If my husband decides he never wants to do kink again, I would leave or have him agree to see other people. Not that it's likely to happen. Once I played with several people at once, that's when I knew it was what I am, and what I also am allowed to be. No more hiding..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-49623980622031139462012-07-26T21:18:23.705+02:002012-07-26T21:18:23.705+02:00@ Val:
Thank you for sharing your experiences! The...@ Val:<br />Thank you for sharing your experiences! The question whether it is okay to play with others when being in a love relationship is indeed a difficult one. I'd say it very much depends on the two partners involved. I know several spankos who are in a relationship but play with others nonetheless, and both partners are fine with that. Others only play with their partner. As for Ludwig and me, we sometimes play with others, but only in very casual settings or for spanking videos. And in every case we are always both present, none of us plays with others without the other at least witnessing the scene. In my opinion, open and honest conversation is the key here. That way, every couple can find out about their personal limits.Kaelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108718924415630397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-67626815068889497792012-07-24T00:26:22.826+02:002012-07-24T00:26:22.826+02:00The recurring theme of discussion: how does kink m...The recurring theme of discussion: how does kink mix with daily life?<br />Would I stay single? I don't know, I agree with Lea. My inclination, however, would be to be totally open and upfront from the beginning when meeting someone, so that neither of us has any surprise later on. I have been lucky in that my partner joined in enthusiastically upon introducing her to the spanking kink, and remained so all these years. <br />Looking back, I have met a few people in the past who may have wanted to invite me in kinkwise, but I think I did not join in because I was too scared of being outed myself, of being dragged out of the closet, discovered...<br />So the first time I did anything practical about it, it was in a professional setting. I did go back three more times. Did it "change my life?" Sure it did, it showed me that the kink was something wired within, and I could not ignore it, at least not anymore. As you say, it does not need to be there all the time, it is enough to behave vanilla as long as you also have spanking in your head.<br />That it is true that you don't need actual spanking at every turn is further demonstrated by my continuing personal circumstance: the pro playing turned into a personal relationship - the mistress and I became very close, and the kink became less and less, to the point where we were mostly vanilla - it was funny, think about it: it was the spanking which had brought me in at first! We parted however, and eventually I got married elsewhere. Since that time it has been very rare, and less and less frequent now, that we played outside or saw others in the community. Today our play is exclusive, however I think that we tend to stay close to the community and interact somehow - for example, here I am, and we read and write about these things, and correspond with others. <br />Question: Is it OK to physically play with others while in a committed relationship where both partners are spankos? That is playing with fire I think, even if one says that the actions are strictly limited to spanking and involve nothing else. My experience tells me that even if you hear from your partner "that's OK, go ahead," that does not really mean Yes, and you better be very careful, even if your partner may be standing there next to you. Where am I going with this? Agreeing with Donpascual, who says that it makes sense to return to the community if you lose your partner for whatever reason.Valnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-55893227317192528212012-07-22T22:51:27.637+02:002012-07-22T22:51:27.637+02:00@ Lea:
Welcome and thanks a lot for stopping by! Y...@ Lea:<br />Welcome and thanks a lot for stopping by! You mention an important point: If I couldn't find a kinky partner who fits to me, I would definitely prefer a vanilla partner who fits otherwise over a kinky partner with whom I don't have anything else in common. A vanilla partner would definitely have to accept that I am kinky and that I fantasise about spanking and the like during sex, though, because I wouldn't want to live with anyone who doesn't accept and love me as I am.<br /><br />@ Simon:<br />Another very important topic which Ludwig and I discussed some time ago. What, if one partner suddenly isn't interested in kinky any more or for some reason can't participate in kinky play any more? Ludwig and I both assumed that we wouldn't split up because of that. Our relationship is about much more than just kink. But it is difficult to be sure if it hasn't happened for real.<br /><br />@ Donpascual:<br />I honestly can't remember that I ever really was in a state of denial about my kink. I didn't know for a long time what it was all about and how it was called but I was lucky in that I rarely had any negative feelings about my fantasies. As for making new experiences and playing with different people, I will address this subject in my next post!Kaelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108718924415630397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-77795647456481897632012-07-19T14:33:07.637+02:002012-07-19T14:33:07.637+02:00I cannot talk about "life altering experience...I cannot talk about "life altering experiences" because I was into the kink very early, already as a teenager without being able to explain why.<br />Therefore, I cannot seriously discuss the option of turning vanilla again. It was "with me" and still is.<br />But one thing, I am sure about: I would never have married a woman who wasn't into it. I did find a kinky woman and we are still together.<br />But it isn't only about having a like minded mate.<br />The kink will also ask for new experiences regularly. I venture to claim that as true for all spankos. In order to make these experiences available, it is highly advisable to be a member of a community of kinksters instead of playing the lone wolf. I have tried to stay outside a spanking community but it did not work. After having lost my last playing mate I returned to the community. It simply makes sense.Donpascualnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-16233411594643532322012-07-17T18:49:42.279+02:002012-07-17T18:49:42.279+02:00My special moment was when I met my Mistress. From...My special moment was when I met my Mistress. From the instant her hand first fell across my bare bottom I knew she was the perfect Mistress for me. For the last 12 years she has been punishing me on a regular basis and I have never grown bored of it. If she was ever to stop for any reason I suspect I would stop my kinky activities as I don't think I would ever find anyone else that I trust and enjoy the company of to replace.Simonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-86112546607917194502012-07-17T06:22:02.876+02:002012-07-17T06:22:02.876+02:00This is also something I've thought about a lo...This is also something I've thought about a lot recently now that I'm single again. Am I willing to go the vanilla route and lose all the kinky stuff? Would I still have such a strong urge to participate that I'd have to do so in secret from a possible vanilla partner? Or should I just forget vanillas altogether and make kinky my number one prerequisite?<br /><br />I think it would be really hard to just stop all of it. This spanking thing has opened up a whole new world and many great friends who have crossed over into my everyday life as well. I'm not sure I'd be willing to cut all that off if a partner wanted me to. <br /><br />On the other hand, it's already so difficult trying to find "the right one" out of the current fish in the sea. Cutting the pool to only kinky fish limits the options even more. Am I willing to overlook other traits I'd want in a partner just because I'm putting kink so high on the list? It's quite a quandary. So it took me 3 paragraphs to say, I just don't know.Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08935712285136696225noreply@blogger.com