tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post7490224796930389330..comments2023-10-18T09:35:55.767+02:00Comments on LUDWIG'S ROHRSTOCK-PALAST: Kaelah's Corner (Oct 2009): AndersweltLudwighttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14975294529532823252noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-48138004400434866072009-11-27T17:24:42.091+01:002009-11-27T17:24:42.091+01:00Dear Arjuna,
thanks for asking after us. Actually...Dear Arjuna,<br /><br />thanks for asking after us. Actually, the reason for our absence is a mixture of different circumstances. A lot of work, vanilla responsibilities, a slight burn-out on my and a few days of illness on Ludwig's behalf and better things to do in the sparse time we manage to share with each other ;-) ...<br /><br />But you may rest assured that you're going to read more from us again, soon. Ludwig is working on a few posts and the next edition of Kaelah's Corner is almost finished!Kaelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108718924415630397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-89154529841455943162009-11-25T01:16:10.969+01:002009-11-25T01:16:10.969+01:00Dear Kaeleh & Ludwig,
I'm getting worried...Dear Kaeleh & Ludwig,<br /><br />I'm getting worried. Almost a month without an update is highly unusual for you. So what's up? Autumn depression (that will pass)? Traveling (nice)? Work (duh!) Better things to do (oh really...)?<br /><br />Anyway, I hope you are ok.Arjuna (Cologne)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-29591586273493651522009-11-17T20:23:35.502+01:002009-11-17T20:23:35.502+01:00Kaelah, what a brae, solid, excellent, open post t...Kaelah, what a brae, solid, excellent, open post this was. Thank you. I have so much to say to your post...I think we have a lot in common! I will come back tomorrow and say a lot more, but I also wanted to say I'd love to email with you, about this sort of thing exactly. My email is carolinegrey15@gmail.comCaroline Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06049175847242140285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-3132469013862975622009-11-04T09:02:35.280+01:002009-11-04T09:02:35.280+01:00@ Ursus:
It’s great to read a comment on the subj...@ Ursus:<br /><br />It’s great to read a comment on the subject from someone who has just recently started to explore the kinky world, like me! Since many of the bloggers are very experienced, it was one of my aims to write about the different topics from the point of view of someone who is a newbie. It’s good to hear that this really seems to be interesting for other newbies. That’s what I’ve hoped for. But it is very difficult for me to find out what is interesting for the readers, except when I’m getting comments on the posts!<br /><br />I’m looking forward to hearing more about your experiences and thoughts and I wish you good luck for your explorations!<br /><br />@ Morgrim:<br /><br />It’s great that you are sharing your thoughts on the topic – especially when you’ve got another definition of kinky behaviour than some other people have. I think more variety is good and interesting!<br /><br />To my mind, each of the three possible degrees of exclusiveness concerning spanking and vanilla sex is okay – as long as everyone involved feels happy with it. And I’m of the opinion that it is absolutely normal that one’s limits change and stretch over time (although the thought scares me a bit, too). BTW, do you really think there is someone out there whose fantasies are consistent? Mine aren’t… :-)<br /><br />So, I don’t think that your comment consists of weird blabbering and I’m looking forward to hearing more from you!Kaelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108718924415630397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-32166453463049584522009-11-04T09:01:02.565+01:002009-11-04T09:01:02.565+01:00@ Indy:
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The way of dealing with that...@ Indy:<br /><br />(continued)<br /><br />The way of dealing with that issue on my behalf consists of three parts:<br /><br />First of all, I try to share the film-making experience with Ludwig (like the trip to Lupus or a little private clip the two of us have made which is going to be posted soon). I also think about making a clip/film with him involving more people. I think this wouldn’t be a problem for me as long as I like and trust the people involved. And I understand that this is more interesting for Ludwig because it makes more complex and interesting storylines possible. If we share some of the film-making experiences, then I might become more relaxed concerning Ludwig’s film-making projects I’m not (actively) involved in. Those are the most difficult projects for me because they give me the feeling that Ludwig doesn’t only want to include others but I’m also excluded from the experience. Which isn’t really true, I might not be actively included but Ludwig always tells me how much he enjoys being accompanied by me, even if I’m not taking part actively.<br /><br />Secondly, I asked Ludwig to reduce the speed and to give me some time to catch my breath before he starts his next film project.<br /><br />And last but not least, I try to work on my insecurities and to learn to let go without being afraid of just being one girl of many for Ludwig, in case I let him make spanking films with other women. That’s the most difficult part because it involves very strong and deep feelings and fears on my behalf – not exactly one of the core competences of an INTJ!<br /><br />So, I think it’ll take some time until I’m really cool and relaxed about the film-making thing (and maybe I’ll never be completely relaxed), but I’m working on it. And maybe it’s like your choice of living out your spanking fantasies without having a partner – making a virtue out of necessity obviously can be very rewarding!Kaelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108718924415630397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-55429706228045538202009-11-04T08:59:11.360+01:002009-11-04T08:59:11.360+01:00@ Indy:
I completely agree with you on the three ...@ Indy:<br /><br />I completely agree with you on the three different possibilities for the degree of exclusiveness. When I started exploring my kink I decided to make the same decision you have made. I very much wanted to explore my kink but I didn’t have a mate. So I decided that it would be okay to ask someone to introduce me into the world of spanking whom I liked and trusted as a friend but who wasn’t my partner. When we played for the first time, Ludwig and I weren’t mates.<br /><br />If we hadn’t become a couple, then maybe I would also play with different people today. Although I think that there would have been a high possibility that I would have asked Ludwig to become a regular play partner and that I would have played only with very few other people in addition to that.<br /><br />Now, that we have become mates, there is so much to explore together that I don’t miss anything and don’t feel the urge to play with others. And, since this is my first love relationship, I’m feeling quite insecure about that kind of openness, too. I think it is not uncommon that many people need a higher degree of exclusiveness at the beginning of their first love relationship ever, in order to feel more secure.<br /><br />The only thing that bothers me is that Ludwig’s ideal for a relationship is very similar to your definition. He definitely doesn’t want vanilla sex with others; he doesn’t even need any private spanking play with other people. But he wants to make clips and films with different models and producers he likes. I hoped that I would be able to deal better with that but it is more difficult than I thought. I know that Ludwig isn’t my property and don’t want to treat him like that. But still I’m feeling sad about his desire to make erotic films with other women. For me, spanking is obviously very much a part of my “normal” sex life now (more than in your or Ludwig’s school of thought) and therefore something very intimate and special. And, of course, a part of me hoped that Ludwig wouldn’t have the desire to make films with other women any more after we had become a couple – that doing those things with me (or maybe making clips featuring the two of us plus others) would be enough for him. But this isn’t the case. So we have to find compromises both of us can live with.<br /><br />(to be continued)Kaelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108718924415630397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-3299218349310815482009-11-03T13:38:42.705+01:002009-11-03T13:38:42.705+01:00I seem to belong to a varient of Indy's school...I seem to belong to a varient of Indy's school of thought. To me, kinky play is independant of sexual activities, although they may overlap. So I can engage in kinky play with those I'd not consider having sex with. My difference though is that I'm not really someone who'd be likely to end up in a strictly monogamous relationship in the first place. So, umm... that bit sort of doesn't apply. And I'm confusing myself, now...<br /><br />I should probably point out that my definition of kinky behavour goes beyond spanking, although only includes limited elements of spanking. So... I often feel I shouldn't be commenting on these sort of blogs, because I have very little interest in paddles, minimal in hand spanking and mostly there in context, although a long standing fascination with canes. Which is why I lurk here. >.> Oh, and whips, but that is more... in a fantasy sense, not so much a 'I want to try this' one. I do know how to use an australian stockwhip, which is why I'd never consider using one on flesh (having a few accidental self inflicted scars is part of that).<br /><br />The things I seek... are mostly sensations, so that does colour my views. One thing I have noted over recent years is that my limits have, well, stretched. Things that would have been unthinkable a few years ago gradually becoming acceptable, then interesting, then intriging. I'm not sure how I feel about that. The analytical part of my mind finds it curious but the more emotional sometimes finds that terrifying. A sort of 'where will it stop?' situation. I know it will continue, I don't know to what point. Where will my limits end? <br /><br />I can't really comment about my fantasies, many of them aren't exactly... consistant. And I feel I've already blabbered on too much. This is one of the weirdest, disconnected rambles I've been guilty of posting on someone else's blog.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13452986549936298378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-49183539692914386342009-11-02T06:30:55.541+01:002009-11-02T06:30:55.541+01:00Another very interesting blog entry-- thanks, Kael...Another very interesting blog entry-- thanks, Kaelah! You've hit at least three very interesting topics-- our limits with respect to the types of scenes we do, how to accommodate those we value who have different desires, and exclusivity. In the interest of brevity, I'll just say that my list is pretty much the same as yours, except for the last one. <br /><br />There seem to be roughly three schools of thought about exclusivity: spanking is part of sex and therefore to be shared only with my partner; spanking is part of sex, but sex is to be shared, too; and spanking is somehow sexual but not sex, so it can be shared even in a sexually exclusive relationship. Even though the last group is probably the least logically defensible, that's my stance. I've probably made a virtue of necessity, as I didn't have a partner with whom to explore spanking play. But I still think I'd want to play with others from time to time even in an exclusive sexual relationship. It's probably not a deal breaker, though, so who know?Indyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11949593044223905786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-616982860776135414.post-56864143743097812592009-11-01T18:32:59.240+01:002009-11-01T18:32:59.240+01:00That's another great blog entry Kaelah! I star...That's another great blog entry Kaelah! I start to discover my spanko word too (I had my first experiences three weeks ago). I think taking enough time for yourself is key. Not to be impatient with myself and not to rush through this phase is important. I need to learn a lot about my kink and because I have fantasies as bottom and top, it's even more complex. But reading your entry, shows me, there are other people dealing with similar thoughts and doubts and that helps much.<br /><br />Thank you!<br />UrsusUrsus Lewishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14689558099398609440noreply@blogger.com